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Mondays with Marnie | Hurt People, Hurt People.

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May 5, 2021

Mondays with Marnie | Hurt People, Hurt People.

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Kindness, like a boomerang, always returns. 

– Unknown

When you think of a “hateful” person, what do you think of? Someone with a biting sarcasm and so much nastiness about them that they’re pretty much a human repellent? I’ve known a few people like that – so mean-spirited it’s a wonder they could stand themselves. Then again, maybe they couldn’t and that’s why they’re so mean.

Many stories of injustice start with “Can you believe he/she did that to me?” What I have learned over the years is that nobody does anything to anyone else. If you think someone is doing something to you, it’s probably coming from the misconception that you matter that much to them. 

The other day, someone made a remark to one of my colleagues that was rude and condescending. When they told me about it, my first response was disbelief that someone would “do that” to another person.

As a waitress in college, I absolutely took everything personally. I saw anything a guest said or did as them doing or saying it to me.  I was giving myself way too much credit. They barely knew me and definitely weren’t spending their energy on me. 

It took a while, but I have gotten to the place where I can watch the behavior of another person and know that it has nothing to do with me (both good and bad). I feel empathy towards someone who is mean, bitchy, or rude “to me.” I have learned that their behavior comes from their own fear. They are fearful that my success may somehow diminish theirs or my progress somehow puts them behind. 

I feel happy for anyone that treats people well. I know that means that they like themselves and are not threatened. Liking yourself is not always easy. That is why we see so much hateful behavior in the world.

When you witness someone being mean to another person, it is helpful to remember that hurt people, hurt people. Rather than responding with more of the same, try responding from a place of empathy. After all, how we treat others is a reflection of how we feel about ourselves.

TEA IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD

MARKET STATS

Consumers showed more interest in homes for sale than for lease in February. Leases of single-family homes fell 26.1% year-over-year and leases of townhomes and condominiums dropped 15.7%. 

The average rent for single-family homes increased 8.7 percent to $1,924 while the average rent for townhomes and condominiums increased 1.9 percent to $1,637. 

HAPPENING IN HOUSTON

Seismique, Houston’s new art museum, is a mind-bending kaleidoscope of light, color and sound. Projection mapping, holograms, motion tracking and gamification are some of the elements utilized in the museum’s galleries. It was designed to stimulate the senses and inspire curiosity. 

LATEST OBSESSION

Bosscat, conveniently (and dangerously) located right across the street from our office, features our latest guilty pleasure – their Pulled Pork Hush Puppies. Go give them a try.

CURRENTLY I’M…

… reading Rise and Grind by Daymond John. Love his take that there is no shortcut to success at the top of your field. It won’t happen if you don’t put in the hard work.

LOCAL SPOTLIGHT

SWEET D BY DANIELLA CORREA

Last week, Daniella Correa launched her new lipstick line – Sweet D. She has spent the last year developing her soft matte liquid lipstick formulas and the colors are so cute! Cruelty free, Paraben free, and vegan. You can order them from her website here!