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Mondays with Marnie | Do You React or Respond?
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Mondays with Marnie | Do You React or Respond?

There are people who listen to understand and others that listen to respond.

There is a big difference here. Are you listening to understand what is being said to you or are you listening while forming your response at the same time? I can usually feel the difference when I am in a conversation. The other person can hardly wait for me to finish my sentence because they have already formed a response and can’t wait to get it out. This is especially noticeable in an argument.  

I’ve been making a conscious effort to listen to understand. A side effect of doing this is that I respond instead of react. A therapist once told me that being centered enough to respond, rather than react can  change the dynamics of a relationship in a big way. Spouse, sibling, parent, cousin, baby daddy…etc. This applies to anyone. 

Reacting is reflexive. Responding is informed. Reacting arises from a wound driven state. Responding comes from a purpose-driven state. Whenever I feel that I have been wronged, admittedly, my first thought is to react in a way to get them back. Make them pay. With age, I have realized that the only person “paying” when I react instead of respond is me. It includes fear, walls, a victim mindset, avoidance and tactics. This moves me backwards and does absolutely nothing to the person that I think I am doing it to. 

I have spent wayyy too much money on therapy to roll around reacting to other people. In a time where there is so much volatility in our world, it has never been more important to slow down and respond instead of reacting.

Message me. Ill be sure to respond! 🙂

TEA IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD

MARKET STATS

The Houston housing market saw 13 consecutive months of positive sales come to an end in July as a result of a statistical anomaly. A surge in pandemic-delayed home closings in July 2020 set record levels that were no match for even the current market pace.

HAPPENING IN HOUSTON

New Restaurant Alert! Leaf and Grain just opened its new West U location. It’s a quick and healthy salad spot that will leave you satisfied. They were voted the Best Healthy Restaurant by Houston Chronicle. Go check it out for your next lunch date! 

SNACK TIME

I saw this New York Times recipe for a yogurt dip called Borani-yeh Karafs. The recipe combines crisp celery with Greek yogurt for a cooling snack. To top it off, coarsely chopped hazelnuts, cranberries, dill and mint, make it a perfect summer snack. You can check out the recipe here!

CURRENTLY I’M…

… polishing my pearly whites! I’ve been using this GLO Science whitening kit- the newest technology in teeth whitening. It is washable and one-size-fits all!