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Mondays with Marnie | You Get What You Deserve

What you deserve will be down to you, and you alone.

-Chris Murray

Do you know what that is? What do you really deserve? What have you been taught you deserve? Do you believe that? How can you know you are getting what you deserve if you have no clue what that looks like. Since I get to be with so many people in different situations, I have the opportunity to watch people settle, not settle and everything in between. 

I think this is learned subconsciously throughout childhood. Kids that grow up privileged often think they deserve to have things without putting in the work to earn them. Kids that are abused learn that the abuse is normal and deserved. Someone once told me that kids do not know the difference between negative and positive attention. They just want attention. Period.  I am a recovering fixer. I am attracted to people that need my help and need to be fixed. I was the sibling that took care of my brothers and sisters and the child who took care of my mom. I learned that this was my job and what I deserved. Until recently, I have never been comfortable being the person who was supported. Over the past few years, I have relearned and reconsidered what I deserve. It isn’t always comfortable but I am practicing. Why do people settle for a discount in relationships? “Hey, can you be my partner and provide me with everything I need but give me a discount on what you expect in return?” Are you giving people and situations a discount when you deserve the whole enchilada? Stop running a special on what you deserve. You are not on sale. You are worth it and you’d be surprised to see how many people agree. 

TEA IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD

MARKET STATS: 

In November, 790,000sf office space was leased in Manhattan, down nearly 80% from a year earlier, according to Colliers. With space flooding the market, average asking rents have dropped more than 3% this year and are now at the lowest level since June 2018. Availability rose to 13.5%. (Bloomberg)

HAPPENING IN HOUSTON

Every year, Houston neighborhoods light up like a Christmas tree (literally), with homes, streets, and yards decked in the season’s finest adornments. In 2020, people are more eager than ever to get in the holiday spirit, which makes many of these neighborhoods already bustling with festive lighting displays.

Eat, DRINK, and Be Merry

Where my tequila lovers at? I’ve got a winter cocktail just for you. This blood orange paloma sweetened with agave is just what you need this citrus season.

If tequila isn’t your thing, maybe this blood orange whiskey negroni will do the trick.

GIFTING FOR A CAUSE

HOUSTON PETSET

Houston Pet Set works to solve the crisis of animal homelessness by rescuing, spaying, neutering, fostering, adopting and protecting Houston’s forgotten animals. 

TURN IT GOLD

Turn It Gold is a nonprofit organization with a focus on funding childhood cancer research. The Dina family, who aimed to do more than support their own family through the difficult battles of pediatric cancer, established TIG to support all families and children and work toward finding a cure. You can donate to the cause here.

HOUSTON AREA PARKINSON SOCIETY

This is an organization near and dear to my office. An agent in my office has a father living with Parkinsons. It is tough to watch the disease progress in someone known to be strong and independent. Let’s do our part to find a cure!