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Mondays with Marnie | Wish They Would Stop Their B*tching?

“Complaining never makes anything better.” Anonymous.

Wish They Would Stop Their B*tching?

You know what I’m talking about. The people that love whining, talking, commenting, complaining and pointing out the negative. For the sake of simplicity, I’ll lump all these behaviors into one verb, “bitching.” 

After 52 years of living and observing, I have found a sure fire way to get someone to stop their bitching. 

Are you ready for it? Drum Roll……

Take away their audience. Period.This is one of my favorite examples:

Griffin was a sophomore at A&M, had magnified his personality with the help of a few beers and was “starving,” as usual. The kid has never been hungry in his life. Only starving. Saving his money for essentials, he decided to eat at home. The fridge was empty but there was enough frozen venison sausage to survive the winter. Grabbing a link of sausage and a knife, this meal was quickly coming together. Since he was starving, the defrost process had to be skipped. With the sausage in his left hand and knife in the right, he aimed and fired. He missed. Instead of hitting the sausage, he hit his hand, in between the thumb and pointer finger. Let the drama begin. Thankfully, he and his buddies were smart enough to Uber to the emergency room. He called me. He was dying. Blood was everywhere and the staff at the ER was not responding properly. I told him to be quiet, stop saying the F word and treat the staff with respect. Not happy with my answer, he called my sister, a pediatric heart surgeon, and repeated his story. She happened to be in town, sitting next to me and told him the same thing. His buddies were in the room with him, and the nurse was attempting to calm him down. Guess what? She didn’t stand a chance with his buddies in the room with him. I asked to speak with her. (Griffin thought I was setting her straight and getting him the necessary medical attention he so badly needed. I wasn’t.) I told her my secret. I said, “Hi, thank you very much for putting up with Griffin. If you want him to stop complaining and pointing out how you guys are doing everything wrong, kick his audience out of the room. Send Trip and Joel to the waiting room.” Being a smart woman, she took my advice. Guess what? He shut up. Without an audience, he quit his bitching. Simple as that. No amount of reasoning, pleading or asking him to stop was going to work. It actually made it worse. The more people that came into the room to try to calm him down, the bigger the audience. No audience, No bitching. 

Boom!

TEA IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD

MARKET STATS

Percentage of homes that sold for higher than their asking prices in the month of September:

Houston: 12%

Dallas – Fort Worth: 20%

Austin: 27.4%

San Francisco, Seattle, Boston: 40%

FA-LA-LA FATIGUE?

I change my tree vibe every year. If you are tired of the same old holiday décor year after year, check this out. Architectural Digest shared this awesome list of decor ideas to literally “spruce” up your home this season. 

MARNIE’S FAVORITE THINGS

(AND PEOPLE!)

This year, it is more important than ever to support small local businesses. Although it may be easier to add holiday gifts to an Amazon cart, think about checking out these local places for your gifting needs instead: 

THE AVENUE

Molly Duncan is my uber chic client that put The Avenue on my radar. If you love their website, it is Molly who makes all of that happen. I could spend hours admiring the adorable pieces online or at The Avenue Shop on Westheimer. How cute is this carafe and glass set?

GORDY AND SONS

To know the Gordy family is to know kindness, love for the outdoors and great taste rolled into one package. The Gordy boys created a hunter and fisherman’s paradise with so many great gifts for him.
My boys would be happy for every gift to come from this dreamy shop. There is even cool stuff for the ladies. Check it out and try to leave empty handed. Bet ya can’t!

POMP AND CIRCUMSTANCE

My client, Marie Earthman was my first employee when I began Marnie Rocks. (about a zillion years ago.) These days, she has taken the boutique game to a new level with her own shop. This vibrant boutique offers so many adorable options. I’ve got my eye on their beaded clutches and a closer eye on what Marie has built. She is pretty dang great!

CHEESECAKES BY ELIZABETH

So, I gained a few lbs over Thanksgiving with the help of my longtime friends and clients, The Vallones. Elizabeth is well known in the Houston baking scene and her daughter, Ashley, is helping to continue the legacy. They have joined forces to offer the famous cheesecakes in Houston, Austin and Dallas. If you are looking for the perfect holiday hostess gift, I recommend one of these heavenly creations from Cheesecakes by Elizabeth. My favorite is the Praline. You’re welcome.

SID MASHBURN

Struggling to find the perfect gift for him? He is stylish, picky and already has everything… Check out Sid Mashburn’s gift guide here. He may not need it, but will definitely LOVE it.

TINYS MILK AND COOKIES

A perfect gift for the person impossible to shop for. Nothing compares to a tray of warm cookies during the holidays. Send your friends this mouth-watering chocolate chip cookie dough here!

SWITCH2PURE

Give the gift of glowing skin with this set of cleanser, hyaluronic serum, CDB oil and jade roller from Switch2pure. One look at my friend and founder, Estela Cockrell’s skin will have you craving her dewy, smooth look. This is my favorite bundle gift and there is so much more to choose from. The facials are amazing too! There’s a gift certificate for that!