Okay, fine, you are just kidding. However, the person receiving your joke may not take it that way at all. The way they interpret what you say has to do with how they feel about themselves and how they perceive you feel about them. With two kids in middle school, I have been quickly reminded of how mean kids can be to each other. The explanation is usually, “I was just kidding!” or “It was a joke!”
Guess what? It’s not funny.
This is a hard newsletter to write. I have tried to think of another topic but keep coming back to this one. It isn’t pretty. It is sad and preventable. My 14yr old eighth grader started a new school this year. She started online and then began in person classes. She wanted to make friends and tried her best. The “popular girls” turned their noses up at her and the boys began making up rumors about her.
She was able to find a few girls that she felt comfortable hanging around but still didn’t really feel like she fit in with many people. One particular rumor that a boy started was so unbelievable and hurtful that she did not want to go to school or leave her room. Social media let it spread like wildfire. “Jokes” about her figure, her clothes, her appearance, etc became too much. She began grasping at straws to fit in and stop the bullying. I recently heard a similar story about another 14yr old and it breaks my heart. My daughter got to the point where she didn’t think life was worth living. Yes, thank God, she is okay. I am fearful of the day she returns to school and the “joking.”
I am sharing this story so that each of you can sit down with your kids, no matter the age, and encourage them to include people, not make fun of people and to be kind. It isn’t complicated. Hurtful jokes are not funny. They are hurtful. Be an example of kindness. Stop judging and start listening. Every person on this planet deserves to be treated like they matter and are loved.
If you are receiving this newsletter, It is because I see you. I give a crap. If you haven’t heard that from anyone in a while and don’t hear it enough, text me or email me. I’ll be happy to remind you that you matter and that you have a lot to offer this world.
TEA IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD
The number of Texas homes that sold for $1 million + from November 2019 to October 2020 increased 23.5% to 6,347 sales.
Total sales of million-dollar and higher homes reached $10.3 billion, a 23.8% increase from the previous year.
The holidays (and 2021 resolutions!) are far enough in the rearview now, and dessert recipes are catching my eye once again. Check out this recipe for macadamia and brown butter blondies… yum!
If you bake them – save one for me!
Curious about what buyers are looking for in kitchens in 2021? This list dives into just that! From island appliances, to organization capabilities, to color and concept, 2021 kitchens are deviating from some trends we’ve seen in the past.
…. recommending that you watch The Undoing – if you haven’t done so already! It’s only 6 episodes which makes it perfectly binge-able.