‘Forget regret, or life is yours to miss.”
What do you really regret in your life? What do you wish you hadn’t done? Who do you wish you hadn’t loved? What experience do you wish you would have passed on?
In my business, I am with people who are making one of life’s biggest decisions. Choosing a home is a big financial decision and equally emotional. My job is to help balance the two and guide clients to the right decision for them. There is a lot of pressure on the choice they make. I tend to guide them financially as if they will have to sell in the first one or two years of owning the property. Some people choose a home quickly and don’t look back. Others are extremely cautious to pull the trigger because they are trying to avoid regretting their decision.
I’ve lived many lives, full of good and bad decisions. In my early thirties, I was talking to a therapist about the decision to adopt a child. I had two biological kids already but something in my heart kept telling me that I was supposed to make myself available as an adoptive parent. He asked me why I was having a hard time with the decision. I’ll never forget how that conversation went and how it still has an impact on how I make decisions today. It went something like this:
Dr. K: “Whatcha thinkin’?”
Me: “I’m struggling with the decision whether to have more kids.”
Dr. K: “What is keeping you from making your decision?”
Me: “I’m afraid that I will regret it if I don’t. I feel like adoption is something that I am supposed to do.”
Dr. K: “Oh, so you think that you will only have regrets if you don’t do it?”Me: “Exactly!” But I am also happy with two kids. I have a boy and a girl. Dr. K: “I hate to break this to you, but you are going to have regrets with either decision.”
I had never thought about it that way. There is no sure fire, regret proof decision. That is why I don’t dwell on my choices. (I should probably dwell a bit longer than I do!) For the record, we adopted two newborns, eight months apart! (Yes, a little crazy!) Still today, my goal is to say YES to life. Should I join my friends on a trip? YES. I may regret getting behind at work and I could also regret missing the fun with my friends. Would I do some things differently if I could have a do-over? YES, I would. But, I don’t regret much that I said, “Sure, let’s do it, I’m in!”
TEA IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD
Last week, 62 homes went under contract in the following neighborhoods:
Memorial Villages: 1
Memorial West: 15
West University: 5
Spring Branch: 16
HAPPENING IN HOUSTON
Saturday, November 6
8:00pm – 12am
Who doesn’t love music from the 80s? Madonna, Wham, The Clash and REO Speedwagon bring back such fun memories for me. The Spazmatics will bring an ultimate 80s tribute to the backyard of Last Concert Cafe and you just might see me there!
I’LL HAVE THE LAST WORD! (recipe in link)
Chances are, you have added bartending to your list of professional skills since the lockdown began. Home bars are more popular than ever. Check out these fall cocktail recipes sure to please your guests. Shoot, you may even get a tip for your services!
Loving my new Beauty for Real products!
I’ve never been a big “makeup girl,” but Tonya Riner has convinced me to add a few products to my morning routine. I am especially loving her bronze and glo highlighter!